Living with depression: When you want to do things, but just can’t

It’s going on 7pm – I just got out of bed to feed my cats that had been meowing incessantly and pawing at me for about 2 hours. (The one thing I actually don’t neglect due to depression is my cats, so don’t worry. They eat at the same time every day. They’re just annoying and probably thought I was dead.) As I was lying in bed, I was googling things like “I want to be productive but I can’t” because I had the hope (for the millionth time) that maybe, just maybe, someone out there felt like this as much as I do, found a solution, and wrote about it. Not only did my results come up empty, I found that there are close to no personal accounts from people who feel this way. I don’t have a solution, not even close – but maybe my personal accounts can at least offer comfort to someone else in knowing that they aren’t alone. Maybe, together, some of us can find solutions that work for us.

My stomach has been my enemy all weekend (which sucks even more because I was out of town celebrating my boyfriend’s birthday with his family), so a kind coworker covered my shift for today. I slept late, made an iced latte, and curled up on the couch to catch up on The Bold Type. I told myself that after the episode, my coffee would be kicked in and I would spend the day doing cleaning and laundry. The episode ended, but I was comfy, so I thought I’d play Candy Crush for a couple minutes; well, I ended up getting unlimited lives, so you just can’t stop playing and waste that, right? An hour later, I decided to finally get up and eat some cereal, so I sat back down on the couch with my Honey Bunches of Oats and American Pickers was on. It was a cool episode, so I continued sitting there to watch it. Then, I decided that I was tired and so I went back to bed, played on my phone, and napped. I got up and was contemplating which chore to focus on first, but ended up so overwhelmed at everything that needed to be done that I ended up back in the bed. This is when I was trying to find something online that at least made me feel a little better. To no avail, I ended up looking at school supplies, oxfords, and I believe in Bigfoot t-shirts on Amazon. Since I’m broke and can’t afford anything that I added to my wish list, I thought I’d just go back to sleep. Why bother doing anything? I’m depressed, everything is stupid, and the house will just get dirty again anyway. Tomorrow will be better. Fast forward to my cats telling me that they are literally starving to death – I feed them, make an iced matcha latte, grab my laptop, and go sit outside.

So if by some off chance that you’re still reading, maybe you’ve had many similar days. Maybe you’ve also googled different phrases to no avail. Maybe you’re sick of seeing titles like “When You Want to be Productive, But Lack Motivation,” “How to Conquer Depression” or “10 Tips and Tricks to Overcome Laziness and Get Motivated.” Maybe you also want scream I HAVE MOTIVATION, BUT IT ISN’T ENOUGH!  I’M NOT LAZY, BUT I AM DEPRESSED AND I DON’T KNOW HOW TO MAKE MYSELF DO THINGS!  DOES NO ONE ELSE FEEL THIS WAY?  “JUST DO IT” ISN’T HELPFUL ADVICE!

Maybe I’ll try to make writing this a more regular thing.

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Perhaps your love will make me forget all that I do not wish to remember –

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Perhaps your love will – 

free me from myself

make me feel beautiful

take away some of life’s stress

show me happiness

encourage me to be the best version of myself

support me when no one else does

listen when no one else will

be the rock to keep me stable

hold me up when I am falling down

support my addiction to iced coffee

make our house feel like home

be patient with my mental illness

always listen to my political rants

(try to) understand my radical viewpoints

help me with homework that I don’t understand

care for me when I am sick

hold me accountable

make me feel worthy

make me feel strong

Perhaps your love will always make sure that I feel appreciated, adored, & loved.

Fairy Garden

Now that I have a sunroom, safe from plant-eating felines, I am finally free to have plants! Tending to these plants is one of the most relaxing and enjoyable things I do on a regular basis.

Succulents are super low maintenance because they are desert plants, so they are great pets for the busy person, like myself.

If you live in a hot climate, they will love living in a covered area away from rain. If not, they love living outside during the summer.

It’s a fairly inexpensive hobby as well – most succulents cost $3-$5. The more expensive versions that you’ll find are just older, larger versions of the $3 ones. I usually purchase mine from Lowe’s, Home Depot, or a local nursery. They are also available to purchase online.

Depending on the variety of succulent, it is very easy (once they are a little matured) to grow ‘babies’ from their leaves.

Check out the pictures of my babies!

 

fullsizeoutput_12e5container: Ross $6, mug: Kroger $2.49 (clearance), rocks, sand, marbles: Dollar Tree $1 each, lantern: Dollar Tree $1, butterfly: Dollar Tree $1, succulent: Home Depot $4.48

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clear pot: glass candle container, red pot: Dollar Tree $1, silver pot: Dollar Tree $1, porcupine (set of 3): Hobby Lobby $4 (with coupon), butterfly: Dollar Tree $1 (pack of 2), succulents are from different places, all around $3 a piece, table: Hobby Lobby $17 (clearance)
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container: Dollar Tree $1, rocks, sand, moss: Dollar Tree: $1 each, succulent: Home Depot $3.48fullsizeoutput_12e6
pink pot: Ross $7, terra-cotta pot: Jo-Ann Fabrics $.98 (clearance), concrete pot: Walgreens $2 (clearance), succulents: numerous places $3.48 eachfullsizeoutput_12e3
white container: large salad bowl from Ross $2, gnome: nursery $5, succulents: Lowe’s $4 eachfullsizeoutput_12e4container: Ross $10, see rock city: nursery $4, mushroom: nursery $3, squirrel & cow: nursery $3 each, raccoon in mailbox: family heirloom, mailbox: nursery $2, golden fairy: Hobby Lobby $4, succulents: gift